-
The only things left were guilt, shame, and blame.
Once upon a time… There was a happy, energetic, and emotional child. They were told they were loud. Then they were told they were too quiet.They were told that they were too much. Then they were told they were not enough.They were told that their emotions were extreme. Then they were told they were too […]
-
Fu⊄k the Formula!!
I have spent the majority of my life following the formula and abiding by the rules–getting good grades in school, attending church, going to college, finding a good career, getting married, buying a house, always trying to do the “right” thing, etc. In doing so, I learned manners and such, but I didn’t learn how […]
-
Are you doing things you don’t want to do? 😟
Have you ever gone along with something even though you didn’t actually want to do it? Why didn’t you speak up for what you wanted? Did you go along with it because you wanted to belong? Were you afraid of hurting someone’s feelings? What were you trying to avoid? Feeling awkward, ashamed, or guilty? Let’s […]
-
“I fit in, but I don’t belong.”
Are you the kind of person who adapts easily to others? You can fit in and get along with almost anybody (as long as you need to–want is a different story entirely). I was working with a client today who explained that she fit into a social dynamic but didn’t feel like she belonged. I […]
-
It’s time to shine! And you’re the perfect fit 🌟
If you’ve been wanting more control in your life or just to feel better about yourself more often, listen up! I have some very exciting news!! I’ve been hard at work creating something brand new for YOU, my shy introverted people. Two weeks from yesterday (aka Wednesday, August 10th) I will be starting a new small-group coaching […]
-
Impostor Alert!!
I’ve coached students, stay-at-home moms, doctors, coaches, lawyers, scientific researchers, computer technicians, teachers, you name it! Do you know what they all have in common? They compare themselves with others (peers, family, leaders, etc.) and feel like an impostor. Over the last week or so this has been the main topic of my coaching. I […]
-
It’s about YOU and your happiness, let them worry about their own
Why is setting boundaries so hard? There are a few common reasons: Protecting Others We take on other people’s emotions. We empathize or sympathize. We try to protect them from discomfort. Aka People-Pleasing Fear of Rejection If they don’t like what I say, they’ll hate me/no longer be in my life. They’ll view me differently. […]
-
4 Ways to Overcome Social Atrophy
Whether you consider yourself an introvert or not, the last several years of living on earth have changed us. As we continue to adapt to our new normal and start to go out and socialize again, it takes more energy than it did before. Things seem slow and fast all at the same time. As […]
-
The experiment results are in…and I was not ready for this outcome.
A few weeks ago, I mentioned I was in the middle of an experiment. The time has come to fill you all in on what it was and what the results show. At the beginning of April, I deliberately blew up my comfort zone. As an introvert, homebody, and highly sensitive person (HSP), my comfort […]
-
We’ve all been taught self-love wrong, and we’re miserable because of it.
What does it mean to love yourself unconditionally? Is it really possible to love yourself 100% of the time? In my personal AND professional opinion, the answer is NO. “But isn’t that what you teach and coach on…?” Yes, AND there’s more to it than you may realize. You are always worthy of love–from yourself […]
The Hatchery: a blog about my adventures in bird watching
Coach With Cam 