How is Life Coaching different than talking to a friend or colleague?
It’s possible they are the same thing if you had a friend who:
- Had an established process for helping you get results
- Was an expert in human behavior and how the brain works
- Was willing to show up once a week to work with you on solutions to your issue
- Provided a safe and non-judgmental space with no distractions or interruptions to work with you
- Was focused 100% on you
- Had the skill to see your blind spots objectively and help you shift them FOREVER
- Could cut the time it would take you to achieve your goal
- Had a library of techniques to help you overcome anxiety, procrastination, self-doubt, overwhelm, and impostor syndrome
- Knew how to motivate you to do things that you thought were impossible
- Kept you accountable to massive action
- Continually showed you where you were growing and improving
- Provided confidentiality
- Told you the truth without holding back
- Could help you manage your brain to transform your emotions, marriage, money, career, relationships, health, or anything else you are struggling with
- Spent his or her time looking for even better ways to help you get results
- Guarantee results if you put in the work
If you had a friend or colleague like that who was willing to show up for you for free every week to do the deep work of helping you grow, then it would be the same thing.
If you don’t have a friend like that, you might need a coach.
Is a Life Coach the same as a therapist or counselor?
Most therapy is usually diagnostic-based to determine illness and pathologies that can be clinically treated. Therapists analyze their client’s past as a tool for understanding present behaviors, whereas life coaches simply identify and describe current problematic behaviors so the client can work to modify them.
A Therapist/Counselor analyzes the client’s childhood and/or past experiences to understand why they are showing up the way they are in their present. Therapists help clients understand past trauma so they can be healed in order for them to move on in their life. They focus their conversations on ways to recover from past traumas; explore why past relationships have been destructive; work through depression or anxiety that affect the client’s ability to function at home or work. Here are a few examples that are very appropriate for therapy:
- Really non-functioning (unable to function per societal norms)
- Extreme obsessive-compulsive
- Major depression or anxiety
A Life Coach focuses on the present. We teach you how to manage your mind and influence the present to design your own future. A life coach would be able to offer guidance by clarifying and achieving personal and professional goals; working to improve communication skills; achieving financial independence and security; achieving a work/life balance; starting a new business or growing a current business. Here are a few examples that are more appropriate for Life Coaching:
- Learning to love yourself
- Relationship troubles
- Overall satisfaction with life