Looks can be deceiving…and so can your goals.

Looks can be deceiving….so can our ideas–especially when we’re passionate about a project, plan, etc.

Honestly, it can be totally exhausting to plan everything, envision how it will be during and after, and then BOOM.

It doesn’t go the way we expected.

Over the last six weeks, I’ve been co-facilitating a course on confidence working with a small group of people.

One of the people in the group came to class the other night (week 3 at the time I’m writing this), and said their mind and all their plans are blowing up (aka not happening as they envisioned).

They felt defeated and that nothing was working out for them.

Here’s a high-level overview of the situation:
● Planned presentation for potential business partner that would significantly boost their business.
● Potential business partner loved the idea but didn’t have time to take on the scope of this new project. IT WAS A NO.
● However, they are part of a larger organization that could benefit from the partnership; and the potential business partner wants to take it to the decision-makers of the organization at large.

As we discussed how everything played out, it was interesting to watch this person’s perspective shift.

As it turns out, their plan was validated and encouraged; however, the timing is just off. AND it turns out, by not being the right time, it gives their plan even more exposure and possibility.

What it came down to, was that the look and idea in this person’s head didn’t play out how they envisioned so they felt terrible.

But because their conscious focus was on feeling defeated and terrible, they didn’t see the future possibility or the actions they could take on their own while waiting.

When we set our mind on a goal, we think we know exactly how the journey will go and the outcome we will receive.

But in most cases, the journey looks nothing like we envisioned.

This doesn’t mean we don’t receive the same outcome or result (or an even better one!).

But the HOW we get there just isn’t what we thought.

When we can take a step back, the steps of HOW we get there aren’t that important because it’s the outcome or result that we really want.

Be unwavering in the result/outcome you want, but be open to how you actually get there.

This is the key to success.

A lot of the time, the result/outcome ends up being better or sweeter than we originally intended.

It’s basically Darwinism (evolution–survival of the fittest) for the modern-day–the more adaptable and resilient you become, there isn’t any goal you can’t accomplish.

Again, stay focused on the result/outcome, but adapt along the way in how to get there.

Does this mean it will happen in the timeframe we want–not necessarily.

But if you’re after the result/outcome, does time really matter?

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What do freezing temps and introverts have in common?

This past week in Utah has been COLD.

It got down to freezing temperature.

What do people who are cold do?

Put on a ton of layers, wrap themselves tight in the warmest blanket they can find, and get into their comfort zone.

From a psychological level, all humans gravitate towards our comfort zones.

Why?

Well, there is a part of your brain that has three sole functions:
1. Avoid Pain/Discomfort
2. Seek Pleasure
3. Conserve Energy/Be Efficient

So when it’s cold or we are in any kind of physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual discomfort, our brain guides us to find comfort; which we find pleasurable (or at least more so than discomfort), and conserves energy by being efficient and doing the easiest thing possible.

This is why we tend to stay within our comfort zones.

If you have a human brain, you do this. However, a lot of introverts do this on a hyper level.

There are a ton of different kinds of introverts with different personality traits and different ways of processing. However, a lot of introverts tend to process thoughts and emotions internally vs externally. Again, not all, but a lot.

As an internal processing introvert, I wrap myself up in layers and layers of comfort zone. Can you relate?

There is a time and place for this, for sure.

However, this can also be to our detriment.

We stop trying new things. We stop connecting with people. We stop exploring everything the world has to offer us.

Here is my challenge to you: Consciously choose to take a step outside your comfort zone every day. It doesn’t need to be big, but it should feel different and slightly uncomfortable. By doing this, you’re stepping into your growth zone–and this is where MAGIC HAPPENS!


If you want support in expanding your comfort and growth zones with less self-judgment and doubt, schedule your free session with me and let’s start on this exciting journey of learning to love, trust, and value yourself while also stretching yourself in a world geared towards extroverts.

What Is Your Insecurity Stopping You From Doing?

As we grow up, as humans do, we unconsciously take on thoughts and beliefs that others offer up to us.

When we were bullied, abused, neglected, told we’re different…we unconsciously made those things mean something about ourselves.

We unknowingly create insecurities for ourselves that sounds like:
● “I’m not good enough”
● “I can’t do that”
● “I’m not normal”
● “They know more than I do”
● “I don’t know what I’m doing”
● “Nobody cares about me”
● Etc.

Then those thoughts repeat in our minds for 20, 30, 40+ years…each time making those beliefs stronger.

Then one day something happens…a major life event/epiphany/etc., and we realize these insecurities have become our own mental prison (which we usually then beat ourselves up for…you know, because we “should have” realized it sooner).

We wake up to find life is passing us by and we’ve been so afraid but can now see how our insecurities have held us back from:
● going after that promotion
● making friends and/or meaningful relationships
● going after our dream job
● building the life we truly want for ourselves
● speaking up and stating our opinion
● etc.

What have your insecurities stopped you from doing?

What have they stopped you from being or becoming?

You are so much more capable than you realize.

You already have everything you need to succeed within you already…

…you just may need some help accessing it.

This is where I come in.

There has always been negativity in the world and negative feelings, but we don’t have to add more of it onto ourselves.

Life coaching has changed and continues to change my life.

Answer the questions I posed above and start focusing your mind on possibility–who you want to be and what you want to create.

You’re one step away from changing your entire life.

I need your help and want your insight…

First of all, THANK YOU for taking the time to read my content. I genuinely hope you find it useful, informative, thought provoking, and helps you see that you are not alone in this journey we call life.

Second, I have some open spots in my practice and am taking on new clients. If you’re an introvert who recognizes that your self-judgement, doubt, and insecurity are keeping you from building relationships/getting that promotion/meeting new people/going after your dream or passion/feeling loveable and worthy/enjoying your homebody lifestyle, I want to talk to you. We live in a world geared towards extroverts and we take on programming that something is wrong with us because we don’t function like “normal people.” I can help. If you don’t fall into this category, please forward this post or any of my free resources (including social media) to them.

I’m gearing up for 2022 and will only be taking on a total of 20 clients MAX. My program is 10 months where we meet weekly to help you overcome any/all of the following so you can live your best introverted life in an extroverted world:

  • Imposter syndrome
  • Social Anxiety
  • Fear of judgement and/or failure
  • Overthinking
  • Managing others’ expectations and/or emotions
  • Fear or disappointing others
  • Having a ton of goals, but never accomplishing any of them
  • Not living up to your own standards
  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Feeling unfulfilled or purposeless
  • FOMO
  • Feeling like you’re always a step behind
  • Perfectionism
  • People Pleasing
  • Thinking other people know better
  • Need for external validation or permission
  • Feeling like a bad friend because you don’t stay in touch
  • Fear of stating your own opinions or needs because it could potentially cause conflict
  • Overwhelm (aka decision fatigue)
  • Etc.

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The Success Method

How long have you been working on your goals…and they just stay that, goals?

The reason that your goals aren’t becoming accomplishments faster isn’t that you don’t have a sensational work ethic; it’s because your work ethic isn’t being put to use in the most efficient way.

You’re following society’s method for success instead of the real method for success. 

This success mindset is the one way that I have used to build my businesses from scratch.

I got laid off from my company and was able to become a full-time coach INSTANTLY! 

I’m not special snowflake, I just know what makes successful businesses. 

I’ll give you a hint…it’s not how many hours I work; its not my personal or professional background; it wasn’t my certification (I got certified after I had started my business); and it’s not because I won the lottery. 

It’s my mindset.

There are SO many TALENTED, PASSIONATE, and BRILLANT humans that have fantastic ideas.

Their problem is that they’re following society’s prescribed “success” method (DO → HAVE  → BE) instead of the real method to success (BE → DO → HAVE). 

Let’s say someone is trying to get their goal off of the ground to be successful. 

They’re doing a bunch of work, throwing money at their goals, talking with people, and maybe investing time in trainings (which is WONDERFUL btw!).

The problem is they are just DOING a bunch of things to see if something will stick; in hopes they might HAVE their goal accomplished and then they will BE “successful”.

Why? Because they are looking for their goal to GIVE them the feeling of success!

Even if they were DOING all the right things, they are seeking success outside of themselves and that always makes things murky. 


If someone were trying to run a marathon so they can cross the finish line to be successful, it takes A WHOLE lot of willpower which is short lasted and will never motivate you long term (or at least it’s a LOT harder to get there and try to maintain).

The better way to view your mindset is to already FEEL successful starting out.

Remember, energy goes where intention flows.

What your brain looks for you will find evidence for.

If you are looking for evidence that you were successful every single day then you will find evidence for it!

If you’re looking for reasons that XYZ is really hard then you are going to find evidence that whatever goal you have is really hard. 

You’ll be blaming or looking for external circumstances to give you your desired feelings. And that’s what we call external motivation instead of internal motivation.


Imagine you’ve never trained for a marathon before and you have no evidence of prior success to look at that you are successful as you train.

Did you stay hydrated? Did you get a lot of sleep? Did you go on your practice runs?

Once you view yourself as successful you’ll start doing the right things → eating well, staying hydrated, sleeping well, going on your runs, etc.

And guess what?

It’s going to be a hell of a lot easier then if you just tried to muscle your way through it (if you don’t collapse during the run that is).

Doing the right things will be EASIER.

Then your goal can be accomplished and you’ll continue to set yourself up for success with anything else that you achieve!


Again, society teaches us that you have to do certain things, in order to have what you want, in order to be something.

 In reality you have to become the kind of person who does the right things to have what you want!

 This is called the Be-Do-Have Philosophy and it is literally how I was able to able to start coaching full time, coach with 50+ people, and start my business without skipping a beat after being laid off. 

I had the audacity to believe that I could just make it work and figure things out along the way.

My end results were and are inevitable.


My friends, have some audacious beliefs and go create whatever the hell it is that you secretly crave to create!

If you want some help with your success, goals, and/or mindset, schedule your free call and let’s get started on figuring out what’s been holding you back and how to move forward to accomplish whatever end result you want.