Looks can be deceiving….so can our ideas–especially when we’re passionate about a project, plan, etc.
Honestly, it can be totally exhausting to plan everything, envision how it will be during and after, and then BOOM.
It doesn’t go the way we expected.
Over the last six weeks, I’ve been co-facilitating a course on confidence working with a small group of people.
One of the people in the group came to class the other night (week 3 at the time I’m writing this), and said their mind and all their plans are blowing up (aka not happening as they envisioned).
They felt defeated and that nothing was working out for them.
Here’s a high-level overview of the situation:
● Planned presentation for potential business partner that would significantly boost their business.
● Potential business partner loved the idea but didn’t have time to take on the scope of this new project. IT WAS A NO.
● However, they are part of a larger organization that could benefit from the partnership; and the potential business partner wants to take it to the decision-makers of the organization at large.
As we discussed how everything played out, it was interesting to watch this person’s perspective shift.
As it turns out, their plan was validated and encouraged; however, the timing is just off. AND it turns out, by not being the right time, it gives their plan even more exposure and possibility.
What it came down to, was that the look and idea in this person’s head didn’t play out how they envisioned so they felt terrible.
But because their conscious focus was on feeling defeated and terrible, they didn’t see the future possibility or the actions they could take on their own while waiting.
When we set our mind on a goal, we think we know exactly how the journey will go and the outcome we will receive.
But in most cases, the journey looks nothing like we envisioned.
This doesn’t mean we don’t receive the same outcome or result (or an even better one!).
But the HOW we get there just isn’t what we thought.
When we can take a step back, the steps of HOW we get there aren’t that important because it’s the outcome or result that we really want.
Be unwavering in the result/outcome you want, but be open to how you actually get there.
This is the key to success.
A lot of the time, the result/outcome ends up being better or sweeter than we originally intended.
It’s basically Darwinism (evolution–survival of the fittest) for the modern-day–the more adaptable and resilient you become, there isn’t any goal you can’t accomplish.
Again, stay focused on the result/outcome, but adapt along the way in how to get there.
Does this mean it will happen in the timeframe we want–not necessarily.
But if you’re after the result/outcome, does time really matter?
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