Category: Boundaries

3 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Cancelling Plans

You made plans with some friends weeks ago. The day has arrived and you have a million thoughts running through your head. It’s hard to tell which ones are stronger–trying to talk yourself up and into going OR justifying why you should cancel. This is where you take a pause. Breathe. And ask yourself these…

September 12, 2022
Are you doing things you don’t want to do? 😟

Have you ever gone along with something even though you didn’t actually want to do it? Why didn’t you speak up for what you wanted? Did you go along with it because you wanted to belong? Were you afraid of hurting someone’s feelings? What were you trying to avoid? Feeling awkward, ashamed, or guilty? Let’s…

August 25, 2022
It’s about YOU and your happiness, let them worry about their own

Why is setting boundaries so hard? There are a few common reasons: Protecting Others We take on other people’s emotions. We empathize or sympathize. We try to protect them from discomfort. Aka People-Pleasing Fear of Rejection If they don’t like what I say, they’ll hate me/no longer be in my life. They’ll view me differently. …

June 15, 2022
Rebooting After the Holidays

Hello, my beautiful friends! I hope you all survived and thrived throughout the holiday season and are ready to step into 2022. Just a heads up this week’s message maybe a little longer than normal, but I promise it’s worth the read. My feelings about December Similar to some of you, I have separated myself…

January 2, 2022
When to Adopt, Adapt, or Abandon

You’re doing a project and you’re in a rut. Doing work feels like you’re banging your head against a wall. Congrats, the primitive part of your human brain is working perfectly! The primitive part of your brain functions from the motivational triad (conserve energy, avoid pain, seek pleasure). When you’re functioning from that part of…

November 14, 2021