Imagine living a life where you make decisions with unwavering clarity and confidence, a life where you honor your true self, unapologetically.
Before we dive in, let’s be clear: “Unwavering” and “unapologetically” don’t imply the absence of doubt or fear. Instead, they signify that your clarity and authenticity take the driver’s seat in your life, while doubt and fear become mere clouds in the sky, passing by without much of your attention.
Life is a beautiful and complex journey, and within it lies the power of understanding your CORE VALUES—the guiding and driving force of who you are and what you do.
Defining Core Values
Now, let’s dive into the heart of the matter—what exactly are core values? They are not merely buzzwords, pleasant-sounding phrases, or motivational posters. However, in order to define them, you first need to understand that values can be broken into two categories: Aspirational Values & Core Values.
Aspirational values
Aspirational values are usually what people think of when they hear “values” or “core values.” However, there is a major difference. Aspirational values are values that we aspire to have or look for in others; OR values that other people have recognized in us and shared their observation or perception.
These types of values tend to be surface level and values that society has deemed as “worthy” (e.g. honesty, resilience, etc.). There is nothing inherently wrong with these kinds of values; they are essential for the functioning of society. However, these can change over time (e.g. diversity, equity, etc.).
Core Values
Core values serve as the bedrock of who we are, what we desire in life, and the experiences we crave and seek out.
They’re the guiding star in dark and turbulent waters; the steadfast true north on your compass leading you through life’s twists and turns; and the natural filter to give less f*cks and maintain clear focus on fulfilling your purpose.
Your core values are your inner motivation and guiding principles shaping your morals, ethics and behaviors–it’s basically your own personal operating manual.
I like to envision core values as a funnel. They possess a broad intake that can be applied to all aspects of your life, yet they can also be honed down and tailored to specific situations, providing you with clarity and direction
The Significance of Core Values
Why are core values an absolute compass for us sensitive souls? Well, imagine them as your personal GPS, fine-tuned to navigate life’s intricate paths, tailored just for you to get where you want to go the fastest and most efficient way possible.
When we HSPs embrace our core values, it’s like finally finding the perfect noise-canceling headphones to drown out the chaos, so we can be unapologetically ourselves, focus, and create a world that feels harmonious—for both us and everyone around.
Here’s how these core values work their magic for us:
- 🌟 Discover what genuinely matters to us, without feeling weighed down by judgments or the burden of obligation. No more enduring situations that drain our precious energy.
- 🌟 They become our inner voice of conviction, allowing us to stand up to those well-meaning but overbearing parents, demanding colleagues, or that boss who thinks they know it all.
- 🌟 Core values act as a powerful filter, helping us tune out the external noise and those ‘shoulds’ of life that always seem to creep in. They help create a forcefield against unnecessary expectations.
- 🌟 They empower us to rewrite our life’s narrative, shifting from overwhelm to empowerment, from self-doubt to self-love.
- 🌟 Every decision becomes clearer, simpler, and infused with authenticity. No more agonizing over choices; we have our compass.
- 🌟 Core values are our boundary-setting superheroes, safeguarding our precious time and energy so we can nurture ourselves and our gifts.
- 🌟 When motivation dips (as it sometimes does), our core values become the safe haven to compassionately care for ourselves and restock the rocket fuel that will propel us toward our goals. No more weeks/months/years of procrastination; we’re on a mission!
So, fellow sensitive souls, are you ready to harness the power of your core values and create a life that resonates with your unique soul? It’s time to embrace your magic!
Finding Authenticity
Now, let’s dive deeper by taking a sneak peek into one of my recent client’s journeys. Picture this: my client initially had their heart set on ‘FREEDOM’ as their main core value. They dreamed of the freedom of time to bask in their desired experiences; and the financial freedom for luxurious traveling and adventures – who wouldn’t want that, right?
The core value isn’t waht you think it is…
But as we dug deeper, my client realized they already had some of the time flexibility with their work and the financial means to lead a comfortable life. So, what was missing? That’s when the plot thickened, and we unearthed their true treasurable value – ‘AUTONOMY.’ They shifted from the vague notion of FREEDOM to the laser-focused essence of AUTONOMY.
As our exploration of AUTONOMY continued, my client pinpointed where they already held the reins in their life and where those reins needed to be firmly grasped. Understanding that AUTONOMY was what they craved helped them see the buffet of options in front of them–in their work, in being a parent, how they function and relate to their family, all of it.
They articulated a vivid vision of what AUTONOMY meant for their future and how it intertwined with their ambitious goals. They could see where they had fought for their AUTONOMY and INDEPENDENCE throughout their entire life. When we started filtering every decision and aspiration through the lens of AUTONOMY, everything became clear. Desired thoughts, emotions, and actions became easy to identify because they were the options that gave them more AUTONOMY.
My Client’s Words on Exploring Core Values
Here’s what a few of my other clients have said about the value of delving deeper into their core values:
💬 I have noticed less “shoulds,” less self-deprecating comparison with others, less self-blame, and more clarity about what’s important to me, what I want, and what value I bring.
💬 I notice a sense of lightness. I think there is more I want to explore but I feel so much less judgement about what I value and how I want to apply that to my life. I think the idea that everything I need is already inside me and I just need to discover it increases my confidence.
💬 I created a slide deck of my values…I’ve had it up on my computer the past several weeks. I continue to review the values and look at pieces of my life and how they apply. I want to use these values in decision making more often, as well as how I want to assess how I am choosing to live my life.
This is the magic of diving deep into our core values. It brings clarity, confidence, authenticity, conviction, compassion, and understanding on a whole new deeper level.
My Story
Desire for Loytalty
Growing up, I didn’t have many friends, so when I made a friend, I was LOYAL AF. It was like jumping right into a committed relationship. But as time passed, I often found myself feeling like that loyalty wasn’t reciprocated. I was left questioning myself, thinking I must have done something wrong, that I wasn’t good enough.
Later in life, I stumbled upon a powerful lesson—RESPECT. It was the missing piece of the puzzle! My friends weren’t disloyal; they simply didn’t RESPECT me. The realization hit me like a ton of bricks. If I could earn their RESPECT, I could also gain their LOYALTY.
RESPECT became everything
if I worked harder in school, my social life, my career, and became the best I possibly could then I would earn the RESPECT of those around me–my family, my friends, my employees, my peers.
This needing to prove myself led me to became so focused on being respectful to others that I unintentionally learned to disrespect myself in the process. Their comfort became more important than mine. It was vital to have the RESPECT of others because, in my mind, that’s how I knew they liked me and would remain LOYAL.
Loss of Respect
But here’s the twist—the harder I tried, the more RESPECT I gained from some (including several people calling out my RESILIENCE), but I also lost RESPECT from others. My brain took it as a total loss. I thought RESPECT was the golden key to LOYALTY. These values felt like they were at the core of my being, but as I delved deeper, I realized they were born from a place of lacking and insufficiency rather than a place of abundance and empowerment.
The world had painted a picture where getting along with and being liked by everyone was paramount. It tapped into our primal instincts to avoid rejection to ensure our survival within the tribe.
So, I ask you this, what’s your story? What values do you believe are steering the wheel of your life, propelling you forward? How you answer this question and your willingness to dive beneath the surface will give you significant insight and wisdom.
The Values Deep Dive Offer
Because my own values journey has been an absolute game-changer, and my wonderful clients have been talking about wanting to explore their values more, I’ve decided to drop a golden opportunity right into your lap.
90-minutes of pure transformative exploration
Picture this: You, me, one-on-one, for a full 90-minute deep dive into your core values. We’re talking about exploring what you thought your values were, why they matter, and drilling down to your CORE—the place where you’ll find the secret sauce for more control , clarity, & confidence!
My previous clients couldn’t get enough of this call, and they slapped a price tag of over $400 USD on it. But don’t let that price tag freak you out. I’m not just excited; I’m downright ecstatic to offer it to you for only $123 USD through the end of November 2023, That’s one hell of a deal, right?!
This is your golden ticket to unlock clarity, rock-solid confidence, and pure authenticity!
During our intimate one-on-one session, I’ll lead you through my proven process to unveil your authentic core values. We’ll dissect how these bad boys have been showing up in your life so far. We’ll also strategize on how to intentionally inject these core values into your future. Think of it as a magical filter or compass for all your life decisions!
Ready to take the leap? I’ve got all the juicy details you need to jumpstart your own values journey and waltz into the life you truly deserve. This isn’t just an offer; it’s your personal invitation to enlightenment.
Closing Thoughts
As we wrap up this soulful journey today, remember this—it’s your values that light the way to your authentic life. So, don’t just discover them; embrace them, live them, and let them be the guiding stars on your path to a life brimming with purpose and authenticity.
Your values aren’t just for you; they’re a beacon that shines through, illuminating the world with your kindness and magnificence, a testament to the remarkable person you are and the positive impact you are destined to create.
I’m eagerly awaiting your stories from your own values deep dive. So book a call and let’s stay connected on social media; I can’t wait to hear about your insights and revelations.
Until our next soulful rendezvous, always remember—you are incredible, just as you are, and your journey to authenticity is a testament to your greatness!